How Do I Convince My Family & Friends to Do CrossFit?!

The short, simple answer is: DON’T.

Don’t try to convince your family & friends to do CrossFit.

Look at it this way: What do you think is the BEST movie ever of all-time?

Now, unless your answer just happens to be the same as mine, I am going to tell you that you’re wrong and the BEST movie ever is actually “Pitch Perfect.”

Try to convince me that your movie is better than “Pitch Perfect.” No matter what you say, though, and the more you try to convince me, the harder I will resist and stand my ground. In fact, I’ll love my movie even MORE because you’re trying to argue against it.

Now, would there be any way at all for me to convince you that “Pitch Perfect” is the best movie ever, and not your pick?!

I bet not.

The simple psychology here is - We are human. And, we don’t like to be wrong, nor do we like to be told what we “should” do. While we certainly come from a place of great intentions when we tell people that they should try CrossFit, what many of them actually hear is, “Your fitness sucks. My fitness is better than yours.”

So… instead… you do you, and let them do them.

And, only if they come to you and and start asking questions about CrossFit, then you can open the dialogue about how to start. But, this is where we have to control our urges and excitement. It’s too easy for us to jump on top of them and tell them all the great things about CrossFit, and dismiss all of their concerns and insecurities.

When they say, “I don’t know. It seems so intimidating. I’m too scared to start CrossFit. Isn’t it dangerous?!” Resist the typical response, “OMG, no not at all. You can totally do it. It’s not scary or dangerous, you just have to scale the workouts…” Instead, try something like, “Yeah, I totally get it, because I thought the exact same thing when I first thought about trying it. Have you had a chance to drop in to any CrossFit gyms and meet the coaches? Maybe just go and watch a class? How much have you actually been able to see and learn for yourself about CrossFit?”

Ask meaningful questions…

“I don’t want to get bulky doing CrossFit.”

Why do you think you’d get bulky? How many CrossFit women do you know that got bulky from doing CrossFit? Do you take testosterone?

“I don’t want to get hurt doing CrossFit.”

Have you ever gotten hurt doing basketball or football? How many times have you gotten injured during your marathon training? Were you afraid of getting hurt when you signed up for the Spartan Race?

“It looks too intense. Everyone seems hardcore and has abs.”

Where did you see CrossFit that made you come to those conclusions? Did you drop into a class somewhere? How many CrossFitters do you know personally? And, where are all these abs, because I’d sure like some, too!”

“I don’t think it’s for me. I can’t do that stuff. I can’t do pull ups and lift weights.”

Have you tried a CrossFit class before? Did you do it with a professional coach that walked you through the movements? Were you able to do all of the movements the first day you started Yoga last year? When you started your first job ten years ago, did you know everything before you walked in?

Okay, so hopefully you are getting the idea. Here’s another response that I tend to give people nowadays when they tell me why they won’t try or can’t do CrossFit:

Yeah, you’re probably right. CrossFit probably isn’t for you. And, that’s okay. Have you tried a bootcamp type class, or maybe the new Pilates studio that opened up downtown? Do you like cycling, because there’s a great spin class near the shopping center. Or, if you’ve ever wanted to try Orange Theory, I heard they are having a special this month for new members.

This response surprises people the most. They don’t expect a CrossFitter to suggest other classes and gyms. They expect us to rant and rave about CrossFit being the end all, be all, and of course, that our gym is THE BEST gym ever.

But, the thing is, “the best” is whatever is best for each individual. And, when we are honest about that and allow others to figure out their own fitness journey, more times than not, many of them eventually end up trying CrossFit down the road on their own!! ;-)

Bottom line, CrossFit isn’t for everyone, and that is okay. And, one CrossFit gym may not be a good fit, but another one may be perfect for you, and that’s okay, too!

Fitness is fitness. Instead of debating what’s better or “right,” let’s just cheer each other on!

There is no need to convince anyone to do CrossFit.

When we do the right things for the right reasons, the actions and results will speak for themselves, and attract the right people at the right time.

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