A Soulful Sunday with Coach Alyssa

An Open Letter to Those Who May Need it Most

I do not know about everyone else, but I know I am currently at a time where I am doing everything I can just to keep my nose above water. Truth be told, I cannot remember the last time I washed my hair (though I promise I shower everyday – I think), or if I remembered to turn off my curling iron before I left the house to go to the library. I forgot my coffee cup on the counter, and I sure as hell have not been spending enough time with my favorite people who “fill up my cup” and make me feel the best. For those of you that do not know, in the fall I began coaching RIIPT and absolutely LOVE it more than anything. However with the new year, unanticipated situations came up with work and school causing my 6:30PM hour to not be as open and flexible as it previously had been which put me in the unfortunate situation of not being able to coach on a routine schedule until June.   

Because of this weird schedule, I was not even sure if I was going to make it to the Open workout at Cadre on Friday night. I had such a busy week that I had completely forgotten about making a PALEO dish to share. To add to my less-than-stellar feeling about myself lately, I am having some shoulder issues and cannot do T2B without it pulling it and fearing I will hurt it worse I had to scale to sit ups (which bruised my ego more than anything because I LOVE T2B), I thought that I would not even be missed if I did not go. All day I was on the fence. Then I was at Costco and I passed Blackforest Organic Gummy Bears—my FAVORITE. I smiled and said “wow, I bet everyone at Cadre would really like these”, then just at that moment I heard my name and I turned around. It was a RIIPT’d athlete who had just recently gone into remission from cancer and still came to class for her supportive friends (her COMMUNITY) even if she just spent the hour staying active and rowing. We talked for a minute, told each other how much we missed each other, and then carried on with our shopping.

I took that as a sign—the gummy bear God’s put that conversation into place just when I needed it most.

I grabbed the Gummy Bears and headed to Cadre.

Being around a community of people is sometimes all you need to fill up your cup. No matter how crummy I was feeling, it was impossible to not be super stoked when watching people give a workout their all and leaving it all on the floor—or on the rig if you ripped doing T2B/K2E. The great thing about this community is the love and support we all give each other. I saw Susan Devanny last night and she asked me how I had been doing since we had not seen each other in a while (one of the many people I had soul-ful conversations with)—a question that I am 99% sure she thought she was going to get a “things are great” answer too. However, given my emotional state lately, my face went  “🥺🥴” and she immediately knew that she was getting into a conversation that was more than what she bargained for.  For me, it was nice to just let it all out—I have been feeling like a balloon and was ready to explode. For her, she was a good friend and listened to my explosion.

Fast forward to an hour lated: I did the work out; I did sit-ups; I made it through to the weight that that I could not even pull to my knees 4 months ago; but most importantly, I had my soul food.

Sometimes feeding your SOUL, is more important than feeding your APPETITE.

When we were all done cleaning up and getting ready to leave, Susan said something to me that stuck—something I have neglected to think about lately—“do not forget to take care of YOU”. Something so simple, yet so complex in the same vein. Sometimes taking care of YOU means putting something else on hold, so you can fill up your cup—so you can feed your soul.

This open letter to you all is straight from the Alyssa Mazey gratitude journal—something I have been neglecting for the past 2 weeks and Susan reminded me of that. Having passions and things you care about is amazing, but taking care of YOU so you can take care of others is even MORE amazing. I am feeling grateful to have a community of people that feed my soul and indulge in feeding their appetites with my favorite gummy bears with me. Gummy Bears are better when shared with good friends. I am grateful that we have each other to squat-clean and lift us up in times of need, and cheer us on and support us when we take the stage, and/or land on the podium.  When times are tough, do not forget to communicate with your FitFam, and if you are feeling too exhausted to come in and work your muscles, come in to feed your soul.

I know this was long, but I think it is important to be vulnerable sometimes. Chances are if you are feeling this way, there is someone else who is feeling pretty similar to you. They may need you just as much as you need them. During the time I have been in the library, Susan has sent me a message to tell me that she made me a meal so I can focus on finishing my research proposal that is due tomorrow without needing to stop to cook, or worry about what I am fueling my body with. What a great support. This is proof that our community is the best. 

Keep your chins up, family! Sometimes the best you can do, is simply the best you can do.

~ Coach Alyssa

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