New Year, BETTER You
As the new year hastily approaches us, I would like to put a new spin on the whole “New Year’s Resolution” and “New Year, New Me” mentality…
Just call me “DJ Coach K” — I’m ‘bout to remix this business! ;-)
Statistically, over 80% of our new year’s resolution fail by February. And, the number one resolution is (surprise, surprise) Fitness. In peeling the layers of an onion, in my humble opinion, I believe that we all have best intentions while creating our resolutions. Of course we want to better ourselves. We want to change. We want growth. That’s why we’re making the jump in the first place.
However, the mistakes we are commonly (and often, unknowingly) making include:
Unrealistic time frames (“I want to lose 50 pounds in one month”)
Undefined and unclear action plans / steps towards the end goal
Lack of measurable results to track progress
Unrealistic expectations of the journey ahead (“I didn’t realize how hard this was going to be!”)
Trying to become a whole new person / someone else
Worrying about what others think of us and our progress, or lack of progress
Posting too much on social media, and not enough actual work
Getting too easily discouraged at every bump and detour in the road (even though they are completely normal, inevitable, and very much a part of the journey)
So, here’s my remix on the new year’s resolution…
Instead of trying to wipe your slate clean (because it’ll never get spotless, my friend) and starting anew, and rather than trying to re-create yourself - Accept, embrace, and even find gratitude in yourself and your journey thus far.
You see, the thing is, we’ve taught each other shame, embarrassment, and even hate for the negative parts of our lives and ourselves. We’ve learned from each other that making mistakes, especially big ones, is very bad and we should hide them. We’ve made each other believe that the ugly parts of life shouldn’t happen, and if they do, then we have to suffer in silence because no one else wants to deal with it. We think that the tough times are unique to us. We think we are alone. We try to run and hide, cover up, throw away, and even flat out deny the sh** that happens. We’ve knitted this dysfunctional web, and it’s why the health & fitness industry is so broken. We need to finally break the cycle and cut the threads that stick us to these lies and manipulations.
Life IS messy.
We ALL f*** up. Yes, all of us. Even the ones who we hold up on a pedestal and only see their highlighted reels. One of my most favorite lines my mother used to always tell me was, “Remember that even they get diarrhea! So, the next time you think they are so much better than you, just imagine him/her on the toilet farting and exploding.” Haha, it never fails! ;-)
I’ve mentioned before how I went “fitness crazy” in college because I was trying to “run away from my problems,” and it never seemed to work. I had to finally work on the inside, and then the outside followed. You see, my point in all this is — Rather than making another unfulfilling new year’s resolution and trying to re-create yourself for the ump-teenth time, face your demons, embrace your past, acknowledge who you are right now, in this very moment, and then strive to be a little bit better each day.
We NEED those mistakes, f*** ups, messes, roadblocks, bumps, hurricanes, heartbreaks, setbacks, and sh**shows, because without them we wouldn’t know progress, growth, improvement, education, resilience, perseverance, and gratitude.
All the parts of you - The good, the bad, and the ugly - Are what make you YOU!
And, instead of waiting until New Year’s Day, start now. Right here. Right now. Remember that time is simply a man-made concept, and we give waaaaay too much power and control to time. But, we also take it for granted and waste a bunch of it. Try to think of time as money, and invest and spend it wisely!
So, while another year approaches us, consider redefining this time of the year. New year, new number to write on your checks and exam papers, but the same continual journey for personal growth and progress.
New year. Better you, even with a few hiccups along the way.
Life is a journey, not a destination. You don’t need a new you - You need a new perspective, a new mindset, and a new love and appreciation for yourself.
It starts and ends with you. Inside first. The rest will follow, I promise. :-)
Happy Life Training, my friends.